Adoption Stories: Don’t Change Anything
I had promised long ago that I would start posting some stories from the adoption, more from a man’s perspective.
Guys. If you’re going to adopt (I really do recommend it), the first tip I can give you is don’t change anything. For at least two years prior to the adoption, don’t change a thing, including:
- Don’t buy a house
- Don’t buy a car
- Don’t buy a boat
- Don’t have another child (although this often happens during the adoption process)
- Don’t get a raise
- Don’t change jobs
- Don’t get a new credit card
- Don’t paint your house
- Don’t get arrested
- Don’t get a traffic ticket
- Don’t pick up a second job
- Don’t refinance your house
- Don’t pay off a credit card
- Don’t change cell phone providers
- Don’t get a cavity
- Don’t get sick (unless you’re already sick, in which case you should stay that way until the adoption is finalized)
I’m almost tempted to say not to even buy a lawnmower. Your job for the two years prior to the adoption, aside from being supportive to your wife (and meeting her at whatever notary she’s at today) is to not change a thing.
You can change your shorts, but that’s about it.
Why is this? During the adoption process, you fill out 12 inches (yes - Mrs. At Home has a notebook of our copies of the stuff, and it’s 6 inches thick) of paperwork including information about your credit profile, home, criminal history, employment, salary, and dental history. You fill this information out long before the adoption.
And then something will change.
And then you’ll get a new piece of paper asking for the same information that you have already provided on a different piece of paper, except the form’s name will be different (one will be something like “Dental History” and then the new one will be called “History of Dentistry”). If any of the responses on the new form are different from the way they were 2 years prior, you’ll have to fill out a third form (something like “Explanation of Discrepancy Between Form Dental History and Form History of Dentistry”. This won’t happen until after all your other paperwork has been notarized and your notarizations have been notarized. So you’ll have to get the form “Explanation of Discrepancy Between Form Dental History and Form History of Dentistry” notarized, and then you’ll have to go to the courthouse of whatever county that notary lives in and have the notarization notarized. This will have to be FedExed to Washington D.C. Post-Haste Dispatch (which will cost you another bunch of money).
So I promise you - you should not change anything during the adoption process.
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